Thinking About Play Dates for Children with Autism

The desire to have one’s child interact with and to- Begin slowly and with patience.  First, have a
be accepted by others is the wish of all parents. conversation with the parent of the child you want to
When this does not occur the parent may becomeset the play date with.  Come up with a simple way
concerned, anxious or worried.  Parents of autisticto educate the parent about your child’s behaviors
children face this dilemma on a daily basis.  They areand your desire to have the two children play.  If the
very aware that their children interact differently andparent is receptive, the next step is to talk with the
display behaviors that are confusing to most.non-autistic child and parent together about your
The autistic child’s ability to interact and engagechild’s desire to play.  Next talk to your own child
with others is limited and varies on a continuum fromabout your intention; 
complete noninvolvement with others to sporadic and- Set up the play date in your home.  Your child is
limited involvement.  For the autistic child involvementfamiliar with this environment;
with others can be confusing, intimidating and- Limit the time based on your child’s ability to be
frightening.  Autistic children can benefit positively towith others.  I would suggest a half hour.  Decide on
the exposure to other children through play activities. an activity that you know that your child can engage
Some suggestions to consider in setting up play dates:in.  Supervise the two children in the activity.