| Let me start from the beginning having a child who has | | | | mess up if I destroy it. It took my son 3 or 4 times of |
| this disorder is not easy. You have your fun days, your | | | | cleaning up his own mess before he got the message |
| crying days, your frustrating days and your downright | | | | that this is no fun. |
| crazy days. | | | | I know we want to help them when we hear them |
| My son is now 10 years old he is defiant, he doesn't | | | | crying or saying Help I can't do this, and yes it will take |
| want to do any type of educational work. He is getting | | | | them some time and yes it may not be to your liking, |
| stronger and some days I don't want to fight with him. I | | | | but this will be the best thing for them and help them to |
| know I as his parent must stay strong and work with | | | | control their anger. |
| him through this phase, but whew it is draining. | | | | Anyway, when my son was younger and we went to |
| When he was younger I could come up with different | | | | the store, he would act out anytime he didn't get what |
| types of games to get him to do homework, sort of | | | | he wanted. |
| make learning fun. Now he is always saying "this is | | | | Yes, I would get embarrassed, I would get mad, I |
| baby stuff or this is so boring". | | | | would say why me, and I would even just leave the |
| He is a wiz on the computer with programming and | | | | store when I couldn't get him to calm down. |
| installing new kinds of gadgets to make the computer | | | | Even though we would discuss before going that we |
| run faster and do different things. When I tell him it is | | | | are not going to the store for him, itnever fails that |
| time to do something educational on the computer he | | | | something would always catch his eye and watch out |
| has a fit. | | | | for the meltdown. |
| Oh, did I not tell you kids who has autism/asperger are | | | | When was the first time your child told you he hates |
| know for their tantrums/meltdowns, or at least mine is, | | | | you or I don't like you, thinking back he was about 6 or |
| he screams, yells, kicks on the floor. He use to destroy | | | | 7, he wanted to do something, I don't even remember |
| his room flipping over his bookcase, his mattress, | | | | what it was all I do remember was WOW WOW!!! |
| throwing toys. | | | | and talk about hurt. I was hurt and sad tears welled up |
| The best I was told to get him to stop having those | | | | in my eyes and I had to turn away and get control of |
| destroying tantrums is to wait until he or she is calm | | | | myself. |
| and tell them that they must clean up their own mess. | | | | If you child ever does tell you that, the first time will hurt |
| Trust me, you will get this, Oh, I can't do it, it is to heavy, | | | | like hell. Unfortunately, it will not be the first/last time he |
| I need help, and of course I'm sorry, if your child is | | | | or she does this. |
| verbal. | | | | Get ready for the downright hurtful things they |
| What ever you do don't help them. They were strong | | | | sometimes say. |
| enough to flip the mattress on the floor, they are | | | | Autism/Asperger is a terrible disorder. |
| strong enough to put it back, they were mad enough | | | | The children cannot read verbal or emotional cues. |
| to knock all the books and papers on the floor, they | | | | They don't know when they hurt your feelings. The |
| have to take their time to put those items back where | | | | most we can do as parents is to not take it personally, |
| they belong. | | | | I know this is hard, but if I was to get upset every time |
| When they have to clean up their disaster area | | | | my son told me he hated me I would be in the state |
| enough. It will slowly dawn on them in the middle of a | | | | facility for insane parents. |
| tantrum that. Hey, I am going to have to clean this | | | | |