| Controlling anger and rage when you are upset with | | | | see and feel new positive energy and peace. |
| your autistic child can be a challenge. But, there are | | | | I have learned from my own experience, that most |
| healthy ways it can be done. How, you are probably | | | | people who get angry, or are in rage, are trying to |
| asking? You as an adult, want to become a powerful | | | | make a connection, with another person. The type of |
| and respectful parent(s), or caregiver(s), who acts, | | | | connection you are trying to make is with your child |
| thinks, talks and makes decisions that are good | | | | who has the disorder of autism. |
| choices. | | | | Some of the healthy connections you can make with |
| One way to help you after you have anger and rage, | | | | your child to help you, with anger, and rage, is, eye to |
| is being aware of the attention that is involved. | | | | eye, face to face, hand to hand, side by side, |
| Attention, is quiet, it can be on the border of being | | | | connections. This can be done by using soft verbal |
| intense. Attention is the solid ground the person feels | | | | words in a calm voice to make these connections. |
| comfortable with. It makes you aware of what is | | | | Coming out of anger and rage, can be rewarding, |
| happening or going on in the present. You want to be | | | | beneficial, if you are diligent in remembering, to give |
| aware of how you are acting, or responding to your | | | | attention to the situation and follow through with, |
| child with autism and yourself, by giving attention to the | | | | empathy, time and contact or connection, with your |
| matter at hand. | | | | child. In time, your emotions will cool down, and you will |
| Empathy, is another important element. This allows you, | | | | be able to communicate on common ground with your |
| with the anger, rage to feel the attention. Empathy | | | | child. |
| builds self-awareness. The more open you are to your | | | | Anger and rage, from being parent(s), or caregiver(s) |
| own emotions, the more skilled you will be in | | | | can escalate into something serious if you are not |
| understanding, or having an inkling of how to read | | | | aware, of how to control it, and what causes it. We all |
| feelings in your child. | | | | lose our temper and become angry. It sometimes |
| Remember, to take time that allows heated emotions | | | | could be more trying when you have a child with |
| to cool down. When you find time to cool down, then | | | | autism, and it affects his or her siblings and other family |
| you and your child, can act and talk on a common | | | | members. |
| ground level for both of you to understand. | | | | If you are aware of anger and rage that happens |
| You as parent(s), or caregiver(s), must try to take a | | | | often with your child, and you find it is hard to |
| walk, a drive, a stroll, go to another room, find some | | | | understand why it is happening, or it becomes |
| quiet time, or turn on some soft music and just sit in | | | | out-of-control, then it is best to acquire some help, or |
| silence. If you do not find a way to cool down, you | | | | talk it over with an autism specialist, who has a better |
| may regret it. When I become angry and sometimes I | | | | understanding of how you can cope with this issue |
| have rage, I find it comforting to cool off, by looking at | | | | and correct it. Your child and you are worth it to have |
| my colorful flowers or plants. By doing this for myself, I | | | | a healthy relationship. |