Autism - Why My Autistic Son Is More Intelligent Than I Am

One of the biggest problems for people with disabilities,swap.
particularly those with a learning disability like autism isThe first few serves were okay although he did get hit
the limited opportunity for social inclusion. People don'tin the face with a speeding shuttlecock but shortly
always appreciate how capable they are, and despiteafterwards he lost it. No sooner had he walked across
having autism I've always known my son was veryto where his partner had told him to stand than he had
clever. Last night he proved it.to move back again. When she gently tried to guide
I decided that at the age of eighteen my son ought tohim to where he needed to stand, he lashed out and
be "out there", doing things his peers might, so last nighthit her on the arm.
I took him along to the local badminton club.He's a big lad and very strong. I felt mortified. I rushed
I was a bit apprehensive because there are clubs andaround the net to him apologising profusely to his
there are "clubs" - you know, those cliquey placespartner as I went just in time to stop him from tipping
where the members are seriously competitive andthe whole net over.
never seem to enjoy themselves unless they areHe was not impressed and I had visions of us being
winning.banished before we'd ever really got started.
My son doesn't understand competition. Neither doesHowever, he soon calmed down and stroked his
he understand the rules of badminton, i.e. how to score,partner's arm saying "Sorry".
which side of the court to stand or when. All he knowsShe was just wonderful and despite the huge red
is when playing badminton he stands one side of thehandprint on her arm kept reassuring me it was alright.
net, usually more towards the right hand side; hisIt appears she worked in the "community", whatever
opponent stands opposite and they take turns to hitthat means. I just know I was extremely grateful for
the shuttlecock to each other.her understanding.
This doesn't usually require a lot of movement - atAfter that we played three more matches but no-one
least on his behalf because he has very good eyeasked or expected Jodi to swap sides so I guess
hand co-ordination and long arms, so last night'sword must have got round.
experience was totally new to him.I did suggest to him at one stage that he should "move
It started off well enough. The club was more of ahis feet" and he responded immediately with a shoe
social enterprise and everyone seemed very friendlyshuffle the like of which the penguin in Happy Feet
and accepting. I explained to anyone who would listenwould have been proud. It wasn't quite what I'd had in
about his autism, and that he didn't really speak. I didn'tmind though.
want them to think he was being rude if he ignoredStill, everyone was very impressed with Jodi and whilst
their attempts at conversation.he didn't physically move around the court very much,
There were five courts, four players on each andhe rarely ever missed a shot. He didn't even appear to
several others waiting in the wings ready to play whenbe watching the game either. He'd just raise his
the opportunity arose. We got on court almostracquet and swing.
immediately and our first partners, a male and aOften he casually had one hand on his hip as if to say
female just knocked up with us. This was fine, as"Why am I waiting?" or his finger in his right ear to shut
apart from there being four players instead of two; itout the noise echoing around the high ceiling sports hall,
was what Jodi was used to.which did make things a bit awkward since he is right
The second "match" was a bit more eventful. Again ahanded. Still it didn't appear to affect his ability to
male and female partnered us, but these wereconnect to the flying plastic missile.
obviously a bit more serious and wanted to play aOne player suggested I get some earplugs for him to
proper game.wear to shut out the noise and I may just do that
I explained to Jodi's partner that whilst he could hit thewhen we go next week. Yes, we have been invited
shuttlecock, he didn't understand the rules or that theto go again!
idea was to win. Since I didn't feel she had any chanceSo now I suppose you want to know why I think my
of being on the winning side I asked if she would likeson was very clever last night, don't you? Well, this
me to play with my son.morning I can hardly move. All that running around and
She assured me it was fine, and we'd just play andswapping sides has taken it's toll and my body aches
see how things turned out.in places I didn't even know I had muscles.
It started off well but then Jodi got really confusedJodi, however, is as fresh as a daisy - Guess who's
because you have to keep swapping sides when youthe intelligent one?
serve. This means of course your partner also has to