Autism Acceptance

Autism Acceptancewe may not understand; connecting with the souls of
One of the greatest gifts, we as parents, can give ourour children, and being the ‘gate-keeper' of wanted
children on the Spectrum, is our acceptance of Autism(or necessary) and unwanted (or unnecessary)
as being part of their intrinsic selves.influences on our selves and children.
When our autistic children grow to feel and know that
To refine my meaning here, imagine your immediatewe accept their intrinsic selves, they too can gain
family unit as the ‘inner circle' of your existence onconfidence and acceptance in their own ways of
this planet. Within this primary circle, we work tobeing. As Susan Boyle (UK singer) similarly described
understand each other; recognise and appreciateher desire for others to ‘view' her as a person
first-hand what makes each other ‘tick', how ourrecently, a young autistic man once said to me, "I was
unique relationship with each other is ‘personal' toborn as me….I want to be free to be that me…not
you, and from that circle we can reach out to otherswhat others think I should be…"
things to expand on our life experience or we canWith Autism acceptance in its truest form, we are able
invite into that circle persons/experiences/things whichto make choices for our autistic children/teens/adults
will directly affect, complement and/or inadvertentlywhich truly are in their best interests. Not follow or
harm our unique ‘inner circle' unit.accept a fad treatment, a ‘snake-oil salesman'
As parents, the choices we make; the things/peopleremedy for Autism (‘cure'), or be swept along in a
we invite into this ‘inner-circle'; the people/things wewhirlwind of tumbling voices telling you your child "must
reach out of the ‘inner-circle' to or for, for thehave..", "must be..", "won't be ‘normal' unless..", is
hopeful benefit of our children and ourselves, will haveunacceptable being autistic and so on…..
a direct impact on our ‘inner-circle's' wellbeing.Autism is a life-long differing ability. We can and must
If we build a strong partnership of souls in thepromote Autism acceptance within our communities
membership of our unique ‘inner-circle'; aim towhere the need arises. But the most important
secure a solid acceptance of each of the members‘place' for Autism acceptance to begin and soulfully
unique individuality (including abilities and intrinsic waysemanate from is within the family unit – the ‘inner
of being – including the presence of Autism) and thecircle' – the centre of our own existence. From such
truth and reality of their beingness, we can offer this‘unity', those many experiences and people who
unique cluster of souls a healthy, humane, positive andoccupy the ‘circles' exterior to our own will
substantial ‘base' of ‘wellness' and stability, fromhopefully learn the true meaning of Autism acceptance
which we can aim to make appropriate choices forin it's most natural and powerful form. And because of
the assistance, strengthening and overall wellbeing ofour acceptance and true understanding of our Autistic
the ‘unit'.children (who can be very vulnerable), we can offer a
As parents, we can reach a personal understanding of‘safe', understanding, empathetic and ‘protective'
acceptance of Autism (and the intrinsic being of eachenvironment from which they may venture into the
family member) via educating ourselves in ‘things'‘circles' beyond our own as they grow.