A Journey Through Infant Development - The Eighth Month

p>Guided Participation is a concept that is not new, it'sclapping (both hands open now) and look at me with a
the way we have always learned: parents supportingbig smile. If I say "patty cake" you start smiling even
an infant as she learns to walk, a chemistry teacherbigger, and start clapping again. You think you are so
demonstrating how to carefully mix chemicals, afunny. You watch all the hand actions closely, and you
college student observing through an internship, and apretty much have every move down now. Once we
teenager in driver's education learning the rules andget through the whole routine, you start it over again.
steps to driving. Without guided participation, we'd have- Every time I play a game or do a puzzle with one of
to learn everything on our own, rather than throughyour sisters, you want to be right in the middle of it all.
others' experiences; and we'd all feel lost and scared.You scoot over and get mad if you can't play, too.
Our world would be a mess! When I look at my 8You notice that you aren't getting all of the attention.
month old son, I'm amazed by all the things he hasThe other day grandma was holding your younger
already accomplished through his ability to observecousin, and you didn't like that at all. You squealed while
others.scooting all the way over to grandma's legs. You pulled
- You are such a blessing in my life! Daily I am amazedat her pant legs, trying to get your way back to her
at how much you've grown. Sometimes I look at you inarms. You are so spoiled and so loved! It's amazing to
bed and think, where has my little baby gone? Whereme how observant of your surrounding you are.
have those opportunities of lying on the couch with- A new trick you picked up is waving "goodbye." You
you and getting cuddle time gone? I miss those timeswatch me closely while I show you how to wave.
when you'd just sleep on my chest; yet I am soSometimes you choose to join in the waving, other
thankful that you have grown into the rambunctioustimes you just smile. It's like you are playing a game - "I
little boy that you are.know how to do that, but I'm getting a lot of attention;
- You know that you aren't alone, and that if you areso I'll just let them keep waving at me." When you do
uncertain or confused about something you can lookwave, you wave like you are Miss America, with the
to me for help. The other day you were playing with afancy back and forth wave. Very silly coming from a
ball - like you often do - and it rolled under the couch.baby, but so unique to you. I think it's beautiful.
Instead of getting upset, you rolled your way overAs a neuro-typical child, my son continues to reach
there and started reaching under the couch. You werenew milestones on a regular basis. He is able to watch
unable to reach the ball, so you sat up and looked rightothers and learn from them. The dynamic world is
at me. You had that look of "help me mom" on yourfascinating to him; yet when he is confused or
face. I was happy to move the ball a little closer to youuncomfortable, he is able to look to me for support.
so you could successfully pull it out.This just goes to show the importance of developing a
- You are getting places pretty quickly with your armysolid master apprentice relationship, where the child
crawl, but you are intrigued by integrating your legs atlearns from the parent and is given support when
the same time. On the one hand, I'd love for you to douncertain. If things are moving too quickly for your child,
a full crawl; but I don't mind you helping to keep thes/he will be unable to learn from other's experience,
floors clean either. When your sisters are crawlingrobbing him/her of the opportunity to grow. If you
around on the floor, you are watching them carefully. Itnotice that your child is missing some of the above
won't be long now and you'll get it! You also like to pullmilestones, it may be because s/he is unable to learn in
yourself up to see what's on the table or couch. Youfast moving, dynamic settings. RDIÒ has many
try hard to stand, but you haven't quite got it yet. Youstrategies to help children with autism or other
get up to your knees, and we can just see yourdevelopmental disabilities learn the same way children
beautiful blue eyes peering over the top of the coffeehave always learned - through and with a trusted
table. It's so cute.guide. It's worked all over the world since the beginning
- You initiate play all the time now. You often start toof time; and it can work for your child, too!
clap so we'll play patty cake with you. You start